I have to tolerate and even get along with others who I may not like

Where don't we have to do this? Why would we expect it to be different at church? Perhaps you think that everyone else in church must tolerate you and your cynicism, but that you don't have to put up with anyone's quirks. Give me a break! Grow up!

Whenever you get more than a hundred people together for one purpose you'll have conflicting perspectives, desires, drives and attitudes and differing expressions of all of these. The trick is to measure how humble you are and how serious you are about the purpose for being there. Of course, this implies that you know what the true purpose of being at church is in the first place.

I once asked a history professor of mine why he had a Bible on his shelf in his office, since I hadn't known that he was a Christian. He said that he wasn't a Christian in the way that I was (I was a high-profile leader among the college Christians), but that he took his little son to church regularly because he wanted him to learn morals and he said he thought the church was the best place for him to learn this.

Is that the reason to go to church? It's certainly not a bad reason, except that there are many people in church who may or may not know what morality is and there are as many who do not practice morals very well. So church is not really about morality.

Morality has so very little to do with church, contrary to what many think. In fact, the Protestant Reformation repositioned this issue, originally (see Luther and Calvin). They said that church is where the sinners (those who fail in morality) come to be forgiven and to worship God in the light of their thankfulness for this forgiveness. Obviously, their lives should also be redirected through the worship of God so that the outcome is an increasingly moral life. They did not say that any Christian must or even can achieve a morally perfect life, but that each Christian should be wrestling against the immorality. This includes transparency with Christ about your failures, confidence in His forgiveness and dependence on the power of the Holy Spirit given to us to fight the good fight.

Conflicting personalities and expectations at church should be patiently tolerated. Your focus must remain on your worship of God.